Ownership of a submissive

Alright I'm back work has been crazy and I have been traveling to places that I wish I could talk about. One of the things I hated was that I couldn't train my sub. Finally, I was able to start training her again and she was primed to learn new lessons.

Here is my rule about ownership that my sub has learned and can recite correctly when instructed to. The reader should keep in mind that this rules are specific to full time, lifestyle, Dom/sub roles.

Ownership:    Little girl  will be forever owned and the property of her Owner. She makes no claims to her life, her body, her mind, or her heart. They belong only to her Owner. Owner will love, comfort, protect, provide security, nourishment, dedication, and all things that Little girl needs or wants. Little girl will at all times keep her Owner informed of her location and activities. As a symbol of her Owner's property and a sign of Little girl's life, she is to always wear the collar of her Owner's. Her Owner is always with her no matter how far away or how close he is, Little girl is always in her Owner's heart and on his mind.

Let me clarify a couple of items here. Dedication, this doesn't mean Owner will never have another submissive. No. An Owner/Dominate may and should have as many submissives as he wishes. But the dedication comes into play where the Owner should dedicate time into training and caring for his subs. There is no benefit to owning a sub and not molding her and training her to be the best sub she is capable of being.

Now some may find it micromanaging of the sub to require her to inform her Owner of location and activities. This part of the rule does not keep my submissive from going out and doing things that she would like. My sub may go and do as she wishes as long as she has asked permission and informed her Owner of what she will be doing. This actually builds trust in and helps to develop the dependence of the sub on her Owner.

Ownership of a submissive is not as easy as one may think. The Owner takes on the responsibility of the life of the submissive. An Owner thinks for, provides for, and molds the submissive to be better. When complete ownership is taken, the submissive's life actually becomes easier. she is to do only as commanded and follow the rules/instructions set by the Owner.

Oh but the benefits of a well trained submissive makes all the hard work and time spent so worth it. The pleasure an Owner gets from simplely issuing a command and watching his submissive immediately, and in all humbleness, obey the command and honor her Owner in everything she does. When the sub comes to understand and know that she is the property of her Owner and everything she does is for him, she actually finds complete freedom in her life.


-OwnerDoms

Gift for my pet

she sat quietly on her knees moving slightly to adjust from the movement of the cuffs which keep her wrist firmly secure behind her back. Owner had just used her for His own enjoyment. While she watched him leave the room shutting the door behind, the taste of his cum was still in her mouth. The play was intense but the time spent by her Owner was much quicker than normal. This was not such a big deal to her. For her just being used by her Owner for his pleasure was enough. Yet, her desires and passion for more domination left her wanting. In the back of her mind, she wondered if something was wrong. Owner did not tell her she was only a fuck toy tonight. So why would he finish the play time in such a hurry.

A few minutes had passed and her Owner's pet was still tied and sitting quietly on her knees. But in her submission, her Owner's pussy stayed wet. Then calmly with a grin on his face, her Owner entered the room walking confidently up to her. He leaned down to her speaking softly, you have been so good my pet. I have a gift for you. A gift she thought, oh yah me! Then her Owner called out, you may enter my sweet gift. Then through the door a beautiful girl enter, naked, with a collar & leash around her neck. Owner's pet sat in awe. her heart raced and in an instant her Owner's pussy was dripping. Standing before her was a girl she knew. Owner's gift was his pet's pussy crush! Owner spoke again to his pet. For the rest of our play time, I will be ordering your gift to ravish your body.

Then Owner sat down in his chair. He commanded the gift to do as he wished. And in perfect obedience, she tied Owner's pet up to his bed post. He instructed the gift how to spank his pet. Then Owner had the gift kiss and fondle his pet's large breast and play with her nipples. Owner had the gift place clamps with bells on pet's nipples sending waves of erotic pain crashing over her. Owner guided the gift's mouth down to his pet's pussy and instructed her to play with her tongue on pet's clit.

Then Owner left and return with the chest of his pet's toys. He placed the chest on the bed and grab the back of pet's head. As he looked into her eyes and kissed her lips, he whispered I hope you enjoy your Owner's gift.

-OwnerDoms

Owner's Rules Part 1

Sitting, Standing, Walking

“Rules, why do I need rules”, she thought to herself as her Owner was teaching her. I am an adult. I have enough rules in life as it is. There is no need for rules in a relationship. her mind was sort of confused but still she sat and listened to what her Owner was teaching her. He taught her that every relationship needed rules, needed limits and that every submissive needs to learn the boundaries her Owner has set from her.

Does that all sound familiar to you? For the Doms reading this, you know the rules you set for your subs and you expect them to learn and obey them. To the subs, who have never heard of rules or are just learning your Doms' rules, pay attention to them, learn them, and live by them. Some rules are only for SL where as others, like my rules for my submissive, they are intertwine with RL & SL. So, while reading on keep in mind that I speak from the point of view of our D/s relationship which may/probably differs from your own D/s relationships.

My rules are a framework or a set of well defined instructions/commands that enable my submissive to know exactly what is required of her. They help to remove the tedious questions that run through her mind which cloud and distract her from her role as my submissive. For example, my rule for sitting is simple and straightforward. “Little girl will sit on Owner's right side at all time in every seating situation unless Owner says otherwise.” With this rule, submissive has no worries about pleasing her Owner. she will wait to see where her Owner is about to sit and will be waiting at the seat at my right side.

Sounds controlling! Yes, you are right. I am controlling her, I am directing exactly where she will sit. But what if she wants to sit somewhere else? Well if there is a certain table she wishes to sit at, she will respectfully ask her Owner if they may sit there. And what if she wants to seat in a sit somewhere that is not near her Owner? Let me explain something about my submissive, she desires to be directly in her Owner's presence. For her to be more than an Owner's arm length away, is to be a million miles away.

Now to answer the question of why my right side. This one is simple. I am right side dominate. I write with my right hand, I pet her hair with my right hand, and she is spanked with my right hand. So as a Dom, why would I want my submissive on my weaker side? I wouldn't.

My rules for standing and walking are quite similar to sitting. My submissive will always be on my right side. Look at it from this POV, her Owner has given her the knowledge needed to know exactly where she is to be in all situations which removes confusion and builds confidence in her about her role as my submissive. There is something warming to the heart to see a confident and proud submissive in complete humbleness and submission directly next to her Owner.

Here are my rules for standing and walking.

Standing: Little girl will stand on Owner's right side. If Owner is talking to another man, Little girl will stand silently behind Owner on his right side within his reach.
Walking: Little girl will walk along side Owner's right side. If Little girl desires, she can walk under Owner's right arm for more security.

Before closing this post out I wanted to add two more things. Since learning her Owner's rules, my submissive is extremely diligent in walking on my right side. she will always and immediately make her way there. Its funny sometimes like when the whole family is at the mall, my submissive wife will have to contend with my youngest daughter to be on Owner/Daddy's right side. You should see those two, it quite cute.

The next time you are out at the mall pay attention to the couples walking around you. See if you can spot a D/s couple in public. It might just surprise you to see that this type of relationship exists more often than not in RL and not just in SL.

-OwnerDoms

Checking under the hood

Alright, I figured this might be a good post and a good waste of the internet's hard drive. The topic for this post is checking under the hood of your submissive's mind. So I will be relating my submissive to my car. Most of us have a car, we drive it practically everyday. Short trips, long trips and oh shit I hope I have enough gas trips. But the point is, you need to check on your car to see if there is wear and tear, then figure out how to get it fixed.

We park the car in the garage and set time aside to do nothing but give the car a thorough review. With the hood open, we tighten up the hoses, check the tension of the belts, the fluids, pressures, and so on. The car shows no real signs of any issues and we are done. Shut the hood and off to our next destination.

As an Owner, you have to take the time to clear off the bed, lay your submissive down, and spend time under the hood of her mind. (Later, you can spend time under a different hood of hers!) she needs to be checked on, her Owner needs to make sure there are no emotional leaks, or that the tension of her Owner's belt hasn't been to tight. With that same attention to detail, actually more, that was spent on the car, the Owner needs to carefully inspect his submissive. Yes, this process is quite vanilla but it increases the lifetime and performance of your submissive. Even through she willing allows her Owner to use her in the roughest ways he can and drive her to the edge, sometimes over. There is one thing about her that differs from an Owner's other possessions. she is flesh and blood.

Now I'm not saying you need to do this ever other day. Oh no, in fact this will have a negative effect on your submissive. But you have to make sure that the training you are giving her is being absorbed correctly and that you haven't inadvertently created some issues from the stress of training. Then once you are certain that everything is well under the hood of her mind find the hood between her legs and make her mind go wild.

Do you mind if I steer off topic for a second? good. Sometimes the best control of a submissive is to leave her untied, lay her on her back on the bed, and make out with the lips not on her face. Wrap you arms around her thighs to hold her ass down on the bed and make her feel out of control by simple giving her such an erotic pleasure with your mouth. Just remember don't rush it, you have time, let the sexual pleasure be hers. Find that spot, the lick, that movement of your tongue which causes her toes to curl and fingers to dig into the bed. Make this place be the only place where a safe word, has no meaning to you. Finish her off and leave her laying there untied and complete in your control.



-OwnerDoms

The Beauty of a woman

One of the many things that I have dealt with and worked to correct with my submissive was her view of herself. This is not an uncommon thing with women in general. Many women have very low self esteem about their bodies, even those who have the 'Barbie' look. So through many nights of working with her, talking with her, and trying to show her just how beautiful she is, we had a breakthrough. Now I should quickly clarify that this was many months ago and since then, she knows how good she looks and her confidence has gone through the roof. her confidence was increased even higher through submission but that is for another post.

Last month I gave her a professional photo shoot. she was naked, in lingerie, in a pretty black dress, and all in several different sexy poses. When she finally saw her photos, she was so happy about how sexy and beautiful she looked. It takes time for a woman to understand she is beautiful whether she is really skinny or a full sized woman. But with a patinent and nurturing Owner, any submissive can learn to love the skin they are in.

After she had learned what beauty is and how her Owner sees her, I asked my submissive to write down what she would say to another woman about the beauty of a woman. So here is what she wrote.

"If I was speaking to another woman about what I learned earlier I would tell her that her body is something to be proud of. Kings will fight over it to preserve it,the world will try to demean it and make it less valuable than what it is, but what I have learned is that a woman is beautiful and that is clearly who God has made her to be, for her master. We as woman were made to be soft, gentle, pleasing to the eyes and silent to the ears. We are to be seen and speak loudly with that alone than to ever have to open our mouths up and speak verbally. A woman is beautiful when shes delights in herself, shows her body in full nakedness, when she beautifies her skin with the glistening sun, when she fixes her hair to bless those that smell it and feel its touch. Everything about a woman should bring peace to a man. A woman should not be hard, but soft in everything she does. It's the hardness in a woman that makes her unattractive. Its the softness that makes her desirable. A woman's beauty is her body. And her master gets to be the only man to delight in that beauty. In its fullness a womans beauty brings happiness, it brings peace, it even brings comfort to those around her. It's not just a stereotype beauty but one that makes a woman love herself for who she is, the woman her master sees her as. Its when a woman can see through her masters eyes that she will delight in herself and show other woman her beauty and bring joy to their lives by her softness, her sweetness, her gentleness and her beauty. This is the beauty of a woman."

This was early on in her process of learning what a submissive is and beginning her training. At this point she only understood that I was her Master and hadn't learned about my ownership yet. Now she calls me her Owner.

-OwnerDoms

Correcting bad attitudes of a submissive

When a submissive exhibits an attitude that is disrespectful and irreverent, the Owner should immediately address the attitude and discipline the submissive for her lack of self control. There maybe times when a scolding will suffice. But since an attitude can quickly open the door to further bad actions on the submissive's part, she should be disciplined. It is the responsibility of the Owner to correct and shape the attitude of his submissive. Once the submissive has been trained and has learned what bad attitudes are, it is the submissive's responsibility to not allow disrespectful and irreverent attitudes towards her Owner.

Discipline spankings for my submissive come in sets of three. When she exhibits a disrespectful or irreverent attitude she will receive three sets of spankings which are not enjoyable at all. This is Owner correcting her attitude. Once the spankings have been given submissive will stand in the corner. And during this time submissive corrects her attitude by going over in her mind exactly where she messed up. When I have decided that my submissive has had plenty of time to reflect and correct her attitude, I will call her to me, talk with her, show her that I still love her, explain how her attitude was unacceptable, and give her the time she needs in my embrace.

One thing that must be done when disciplining for bad attitudes or in fact anytime a submissive has been disciplined is to discipline and forget about it. An Owner should never hold an infraction over a submissive's head after it has been addressed and dealt with, especially if the submissive has received disciplinary spankings.

-OwnerDoms

Kneeling time

About a month ago, I felt it was time to give my submissive kneeling time. Kneeling time for a submissive is a wonderful experience for her and helps to mold her mind and will. While in kneeling time a submissive can relax and gather herself while releasing mental stress.

When submissive enjoys her kneeling time she does so exactly how her Owner has instructed. For my submissive, she knows exactly how it is done. she is to go into her Owner's bedroom and lock the door which in itself provides submissive security and helps her feel like she is 'hiding out' in the safety of her Owner's bedroom. She then removes all clothes to be in full beauty (unless Owner has instructed her to wear something specific), places her SL collar around her neck and ties the leash to he Owner's bed post. And finally kneels down at the foot of the bed (which in her mind symbolizes her Owner's feet), her knees and ankles close together, sits up straight with her hands on her knees.

For the next 15 minutes, my submissive thinks only on her Owner, his control and dominance, his love and rewards for her perfect submission. she allows herself  to let go and her Owner to take control. In this time, she may experience many different emotions, many times her Owner's pussy becomes wet and even sometimes flooded by the mere thought of Owner. she will spend most of the time in silence except when she is whispering her creed to her Owner or giving him thanks. And when her 15 minutes has passed, she carefully puts away her Owner's collar & leash, puts her clothes back on and carries on throughout her day with more focus, desire, and love for her Owner.

Today I asked my little girl how her kneeling time went and this is her reply
"It was awesome as always..i had on my corset and my collar and heels and i got down on the floor today being leashed to the bed and felt so at peace..i almost started to cry
i thought of you and all you've taught me and all i have to learn from you
then i started missing you like crazy even more than usual..i whipspered to you how much you mean to me as my Owner
how much i will serve you with all my life and body
and then i thanked you for all your patience, training, dedication, and hard work you have put into me...
i said my creed a few times while in adoring kitty..then got back up to my postion..i just wanted to adore you even at that moment even though you couldn't see me"

Adoring Kitty position

-OwnerDoms

What I live by

My sub has her Owner's rules that structure and create guidelines for her life. But does Owner have rules for himself? Yes I do! I have rules that I was raised by as boy becoming a man. They help me in RL and extend to all areas of my life. The are simple, straightforward rules that, honestly, a man should live by.

So when reading Sir J's blog What does it mean to be a Dominant,  I found a very similar list of rules that I have lived myself in his post My Rules. So I decided to post them here, one to show others and to always remind myself.

Say Please and Thank you

Work hard

Mind my manners

Offer a Lady, the elderly and pregnant women a place to sit

Don't curse

Extend a firm handshake

Keep my word

Respect my Elders, respect not necessarily agree with or follow

Always make eye contact

Open doors for others

Stand up straight

Be well groomed

Read often

Be Romantic

No Gossip

Be punctual

Love well

Be humble

Always have a strong hand to embrace her gentle face.

Carry on

-OwnerDoms

submissive's desires grow

My lovely little girl left a darling note about the desires and emotions she felt throughout the day. I had to share it because its the product of taming danger and my submissive giving a little more of her life to her Owner. she has truly grown in her desires for her Owner's reward.

"Today I have thought of my Owner so much that not only was my pussy wet but i was sad, angry, happy, all emotions that contradict each other came to me. I felt today an overwhelming feeling of need to please my Owner so badly. Its not a want or some feeling just because, i truly feel like i need to serve him. im not sure how to explain how i feel other than i am a submissive and since my Owner is away because of work im not getting to be a submissive to him (face to face). his submissive desires to please him in every sexual way he can think of. his submissive desires to please him in every emotional way as well. I have thought of my Owner all day. even in the midst of tending to kids, cooking dinners, cleaning house, tending to pets and all the things a submissive does i thought of him. I even made his favorite desert tonight because if he was here i know he would be pleased to have those things. i am a submissive and i need an Owner and my Owner is far from me. I long to serve my Owner, I long to be the best submissive that ever was. it may sound selfish but my Owner has trained me so well to need him that i am so anxious, for a lack of a better word, to serve him. I keep saying it but it is what I am..i am a submissive and a submissive has an Owner. I long to have mine with me so that i can be his submissive and i can feel him petting my hair and telling me "good little girl" when i get my reward. Oh how i long for these things. I've just missed my Owner so much. I love you Owner."

Little girl's favorite picture, just for her.
Owner requires much from her, and expects 
nothing but her entire life. And submissive
wouldn't have it any other way.







-OwnerDoms

Cycle of a D/s relationship

Right now work has me far far away from home, not real certain but i think Shrek lives just down the street from me. Anyways work can be quite taxing mentally and  emotionally. The other day when I was talking online with my sub, she picked up on my attitude. she had already asked to go workout and I permitted it.  So while we talked I allowed her to get ready to go. One thing that submissive's training has done for us is sharpened her sense of awareness of her Owner. she is more 'in tuned' now to me. Moving on. I had asked her if she was ready to go. she replied with, "As long as my Owner needs me, i'm not going anywhere!" I was so proud of her. I am so proud of her. I told her silly little girl haven't you figured out the Owner/sub relationship. Owner is always going to need or want something from you. Which means submissive isn't going anywhere. And of course the banter of 'lols' and smilie faces was preformed. Then I explained the cycle of our relationship.

The cycle

Owner needs/wants something from his submissive,
submissive desires to meet the needs/wants of Owner,
Owner takes it from his submissive,
Owner rewards his submissive.

I asked her if she understood which she did. she is quite the natural at being a submissive. Then I questioned her further, even though submissive has in her capabilities to please Owner, who is still in control of the cycle. And her response was right on the money, my Owner does. He will still take whatever he wants even if submissive is not willing. Great! she also understood that submissive is rewarded always with praise when she is willing and has pleased her Owner. We talked a little more about O/s relationships. I then summed the whole thing up like this. submissive worships Owner, Owner praises submissive. Even though I'm light years away, I could hear that bell go off in her head and see the light bulb come on over her. she responded with, 'that's right, that's exactly how i feel and that's exactly what Owner does for me when i've pleased him'. I told her great job my love, you make me proud. Now go to the gym.

Aww, yet another milestone passed by my little submissive.

-OwnerDoms