A loose leash is an open door to bad habits

At some point in everyone's lives we fall into the trap of complacency. Where we have put in a great deal of labor into an object and so have molded such a wonderful master piece in our eyes. Myself as a Owner/Dom, I have put lots of time, energy, patience, and love into teaching and molding my submissive wife. I had her to a point that I was so proud of her. In everything she did, she knew exactly how to do it. Although it seems as the new school year started and daily life picked back up, I had slacked off not in the area of teaching but in discipline. Over the past few of weeks I allowed my sub to have a little more loose leash than I wanted. I did this with the intent that it would allow my sub to better help the kids. This was my trap.

One of our kids recently had a birthday. Now up to this point, since I started training my sub at the end of last year, I have made every decision and instructed her in exactly as I want things to be done. This is the Way of an Owner and I was, I am, very good at it. So when it came time to plan for the birthday, I gave my sub a loose leash to let her handle it. The party went off without a hitch and was great. But! That loose leash allowed little kitty to develop some bad habits. First, she was stressing and stressing a lot. Then she was not giving her Owner the time he wanted much less the time I needed. The worse thing was little kitty developed a bit of an attitude.

When I finally said enough and started to tighten up the leash, she resisted a little. But soon realized, that when she is on her own she can't handle it. That all the safety, comfort, and security of her Owner's complete control was not there. This caused my pet to relax against the leash, to turn and come running right back to her Owner's feet. I removed the pressure that only an Owner/Dom can put a submissive under to see if she was back correctly. Yet, I did not administer much discipline even though she deserved it.

After giving her a couple days to get her head back into the place it should be, my pet has not quite gotten there. Today she will be discipline and discipline a lot. Owner will now pull his leash in straight down to his feet. He will put more of Owner's pressure than she can handle to break his submissive then remold her even stronger than before. It is time that discipline, in its many ways, brings softness, submissiveness, humbleness, obedience and completion back to my sub.

-OwnerDoms

Owner's Rules Part 1

Sitting, Standing, Walking

“Rules, why do I need rules”, she thought to herself as her Owner was teaching her. I am an adult. I have enough rules in life as it is. There is no need for rules in a relationship. her mind was sort of confused but still she sat and listened to what her Owner was teaching her. He taught her that every relationship needed rules, needed limits and that every submissive needs to learn the boundaries her Owner has set from her.

Does that all sound familiar to you? For the Doms reading this, you know the rules you set for your subs and you expect them to learn and obey them. To the subs, who have never heard of rules or are just learning your Doms' rules, pay attention to them, learn them, and live by them. Some rules are only for SL where as others, like my rules for my submissive, they are intertwine with RL & SL. So, while reading on keep in mind that I speak from the point of view of our D/s relationship which may/probably differs from your own D/s relationships.

My rules are a framework or a set of well defined instructions/commands that enable my submissive to know exactly what is required of her. They help to remove the tedious questions that run through her mind which cloud and distract her from her role as my submissive. For example, my rule for sitting is simple and straightforward. “Little girl will sit on Owner's right side at all time in every seating situation unless Owner says otherwise.” With this rule, submissive has no worries about pleasing her Owner. she will wait to see where her Owner is about to sit and will be waiting at the seat at my right side.

Sounds controlling! Yes, you are right. I am controlling her, I am directing exactly where she will sit. But what if she wants to sit somewhere else? Well if there is a certain table she wishes to sit at, she will respectfully ask her Owner if they may sit there. And what if she wants to seat in a sit somewhere that is not near her Owner? Let me explain something about my submissive, she desires to be directly in her Owner's presence. For her to be more than an Owner's arm length away, is to be a million miles away.

Now to answer the question of why my right side. This one is simple. I am right side dominate. I write with my right hand, I pet her hair with my right hand, and she is spanked with my right hand. So as a Dom, why would I want my submissive on my weaker side? I wouldn't.

My rules for standing and walking are quite similar to sitting. My submissive will always be on my right side. Look at it from this POV, her Owner has given her the knowledge needed to know exactly where she is to be in all situations which removes confusion and builds confidence in her about her role as my submissive. There is something warming to the heart to see a confident and proud submissive in complete humbleness and submission directly next to her Owner.

Here are my rules for standing and walking.

Standing: Little girl will stand on Owner's right side. If Owner is talking to another man, Little girl will stand silently behind Owner on his right side within his reach.
Walking: Little girl will walk along side Owner's right side. If Little girl desires, she can walk under Owner's right arm for more security.

Before closing this post out I wanted to add two more things. Since learning her Owner's rules, my submissive is extremely diligent in walking on my right side. she will always and immediately make her way there. Its funny sometimes like when the whole family is at the mall, my submissive wife will have to contend with my youngest daughter to be on Owner/Daddy's right side. You should see those two, it quite cute.

The next time you are out at the mall pay attention to the couples walking around you. See if you can spot a D/s couple in public. It might just surprise you to see that this type of relationship exists more often than not in RL and not just in SL.

-OwnerDoms

Correcting bad attitudes of a submissive

When a submissive exhibits an attitude that is disrespectful and irreverent, the Owner should immediately address the attitude and discipline the submissive for her lack of self control. There maybe times when a scolding will suffice. But since an attitude can quickly open the door to further bad actions on the submissive's part, she should be disciplined. It is the responsibility of the Owner to correct and shape the attitude of his submissive. Once the submissive has been trained and has learned what bad attitudes are, it is the submissive's responsibility to not allow disrespectful and irreverent attitudes towards her Owner.

Discipline spankings for my submissive come in sets of three. When she exhibits a disrespectful or irreverent attitude she will receive three sets of spankings which are not enjoyable at all. This is Owner correcting her attitude. Once the spankings have been given submissive will stand in the corner. And during this time submissive corrects her attitude by going over in her mind exactly where she messed up. When I have decided that my submissive has had plenty of time to reflect and correct her attitude, I will call her to me, talk with her, show her that I still love her, explain how her attitude was unacceptable, and give her the time she needs in my embrace.

One thing that must be done when disciplining for bad attitudes or in fact anytime a submissive has been disciplined is to discipline and forget about it. An Owner should never hold an infraction over a submissive's head after it has been addressed and dealt with, especially if the submissive has received disciplinary spankings.

-OwnerDoms