A loose leash is an open door to bad habits

At some point in everyone's lives we fall into the trap of complacency. Where we have put in a great deal of labor into an object and so have molded such a wonderful master piece in our eyes. Myself as a Owner/Dom, I have put lots of time, energy, patience, and love into teaching and molding my submissive wife. I had her to a point that I was so proud of her. In everything she did, she knew exactly how to do it. Although it seems as the new school year started and daily life picked back up, I had slacked off not in the area of teaching but in discipline. Over the past few of weeks I allowed my sub to have a little more loose leash than I wanted. I did this with the intent that it would allow my sub to better help the kids. This was my trap.

One of our kids recently had a birthday. Now up to this point, since I started training my sub at the end of last year, I have made every decision and instructed her in exactly as I want things to be done. This is the Way of an Owner and I was, I am, very good at it. So when it came time to plan for the birthday, I gave my sub a loose leash to let her handle it. The party went off without a hitch and was great. But! That loose leash allowed little kitty to develop some bad habits. First, she was stressing and stressing a lot. Then she was not giving her Owner the time he wanted much less the time I needed. The worse thing was little kitty developed a bit of an attitude.

When I finally said enough and started to tighten up the leash, she resisted a little. But soon realized, that when she is on her own she can't handle it. That all the safety, comfort, and security of her Owner's complete control was not there. This caused my pet to relax against the leash, to turn and come running right back to her Owner's feet. I removed the pressure that only an Owner/Dom can put a submissive under to see if she was back correctly. Yet, I did not administer much discipline even though she deserved it.

After giving her a couple days to get her head back into the place it should be, my pet has not quite gotten there. Today she will be discipline and discipline a lot. Owner will now pull his leash in straight down to his feet. He will put more of Owner's pressure than she can handle to break his submissive then remold her even stronger than before. It is time that discipline, in its many ways, brings softness, submissiveness, humbleness, obedience and completion back to my sub.

-OwnerDoms

The Beauty of a woman

One of the many things that I have dealt with and worked to correct with my submissive was her view of herself. This is not an uncommon thing with women in general. Many women have very low self esteem about their bodies, even those who have the 'Barbie' look. So through many nights of working with her, talking with her, and trying to show her just how beautiful she is, we had a breakthrough. Now I should quickly clarify that this was many months ago and since then, she knows how good she looks and her confidence has gone through the roof. her confidence was increased even higher through submission but that is for another post.

Last month I gave her a professional photo shoot. she was naked, in lingerie, in a pretty black dress, and all in several different sexy poses. When she finally saw her photos, she was so happy about how sexy and beautiful she looked. It takes time for a woman to understand she is beautiful whether she is really skinny or a full sized woman. But with a patinent and nurturing Owner, any submissive can learn to love the skin they are in.

After she had learned what beauty is and how her Owner sees her, I asked my submissive to write down what she would say to another woman about the beauty of a woman. So here is what she wrote.

"If I was speaking to another woman about what I learned earlier I would tell her that her body is something to be proud of. Kings will fight over it to preserve it,the world will try to demean it and make it less valuable than what it is, but what I have learned is that a woman is beautiful and that is clearly who God has made her to be, for her master. We as woman were made to be soft, gentle, pleasing to the eyes and silent to the ears. We are to be seen and speak loudly with that alone than to ever have to open our mouths up and speak verbally. A woman is beautiful when shes delights in herself, shows her body in full nakedness, when she beautifies her skin with the glistening sun, when she fixes her hair to bless those that smell it and feel its touch. Everything about a woman should bring peace to a man. A woman should not be hard, but soft in everything she does. It's the hardness in a woman that makes her unattractive. Its the softness that makes her desirable. A woman's beauty is her body. And her master gets to be the only man to delight in that beauty. In its fullness a womans beauty brings happiness, it brings peace, it even brings comfort to those around her. It's not just a stereotype beauty but one that makes a woman love herself for who she is, the woman her master sees her as. Its when a woman can see through her masters eyes that she will delight in herself and show other woman her beauty and bring joy to their lives by her softness, her sweetness, her gentleness and her beauty. This is the beauty of a woman."

This was early on in her process of learning what a submissive is and beginning her training. At this point she only understood that I was her Master and hadn't learned about my ownership yet. Now she calls me her Owner.

-OwnerDoms

Correcting bad attitudes of a submissive

When a submissive exhibits an attitude that is disrespectful and irreverent, the Owner should immediately address the attitude and discipline the submissive for her lack of self control. There maybe times when a scolding will suffice. But since an attitude can quickly open the door to further bad actions on the submissive's part, she should be disciplined. It is the responsibility of the Owner to correct and shape the attitude of his submissive. Once the submissive has been trained and has learned what bad attitudes are, it is the submissive's responsibility to not allow disrespectful and irreverent attitudes towards her Owner.

Discipline spankings for my submissive come in sets of three. When she exhibits a disrespectful or irreverent attitude she will receive three sets of spankings which are not enjoyable at all. This is Owner correcting her attitude. Once the spankings have been given submissive will stand in the corner. And during this time submissive corrects her attitude by going over in her mind exactly where she messed up. When I have decided that my submissive has had plenty of time to reflect and correct her attitude, I will call her to me, talk with her, show her that I still love her, explain how her attitude was unacceptable, and give her the time she needs in my embrace.

One thing that must be done when disciplining for bad attitudes or in fact anytime a submissive has been disciplined is to discipline and forget about it. An Owner should never hold an infraction over a submissive's head after it has been addressed and dealt with, especially if the submissive has received disciplinary spankings.

-OwnerDoms